MEN: How to get a great guy TODAY

By Amy DuBois Barnett

1. Stop believing the man shortage hype. First of all, it doesn’t exist. According to the US Census Bureau, by 2010, there will be just over 1 million extra men in the 20- to 44-age range. Besides, as a unique and exceptional woman, you don’t expect the right man for you to be a “dime a dozen” type. So quit complaining about how bad men are; that just invites bad men into your life.

2. Give him breathing room. If you’re in a relationship now, quit hovering, smothering and clinging. You think you’re being loving and “there for him”—he no doubt sees it as desperation. And you’re not desperate. So treat yourself to a fab girls’ night out!

3. Quit searching for Mr. Exactly Right. Want to ruin your chances of meeting a great guy? Compose a list of qualities he has to have. These “must” lists limit you, and tend to include superficial things about age, education, income and appearance, instead of soul qualities, like warmth, sensitivity, honor and humor.

4. Expand your dating pool. Whatever strategies you use to meet men, multiply them by doing things you’ve never done. Try Internet dating, go to singles’ events, and agree to sensible fix-ups. If those methods aren’t yielding results, go further—track down an old crush, throw a singles soiree, dress up and dine alone at a hotspot. Just get out there!

5. Accept that it’s over. I’m not saying get over your ex this minute, but at least acknowledge the breakup. Stop calling him for whatever irrelevant reason you can think of. In fact, remove his number from your speed dial. Put his pictures out of sight; do the same with anything else (gifts, concert ticket stubs) that causes you pain to look at. You will feel better. I promise.

Source from : Singapore Club Forum